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by Mitchell Tepper 

I was recently asked to do an article dealing with a common sense sexual tip of my choice. Knowing that there were enough other experts who would be speaking to women’s issues, I decided to focus my time on an educational message targeted toward men that would also benefit their partners. Simply put, when it comes to sex, you get what you give.

If you rush too quickly to intercourse you may get off but your partner may not. If you rush, your partner may even experience pain or discomfort instead of pleasure, and may be less likely to be receptive to your needs the next time. Also, many men who rush to intercourse end up getting off too quickly and feeling ashamed or inadequate afterwards. “Wham, bam, thank you ma’am” is not going to get you far in the long run.

If you are in it for the performance you may end up so focused on technique that you actually end up a spectator. When too focused on your technique you risk missing out on the more subtle sensations of sex. Worse yet, if you are so worried about how you are doing, you may not get off at all or you may last so long that your partner ends up dry, sore, and wishing the sexual encounter was over. When the whole sexual experience is focused on getting it up, getting it in, and keeping it in until your partner has multiple screaming orgasms, you and your partner may both end up getting shortchanged. You end up putting pressure on your partner to respond – a strategy that most certainly will backfire – and it becomes very difficult for you to take pleasure in what’s happening in the present moment.

When you engage your mind and whole body during sex in addition to your genitals, more areas of your brain are activated. This has been confirmed by the latest fMRI studies of the brain during orgasm. My research with spinal cord injured men and women who experience orgasm despite paralysis and loss of sensation in their genitals demonstrates the power of the mind and a sense of connectedness with your partner to facilitate pleasure and orgasm.

If you take a little more time to tune into your partner and yourself and partake in more whole body pleasuring, you will avoid three of the most common mistakes men make in sex: 
1) rushing too quickly to intercourse; 
2) performing too mechanically; 
3) ejaculating too quickly.

By slowing down, staying in the present moment, allowing yourself to follow the natural flow, and including more complimenting, kissing, stroking, and massage, you allow the sexual energy to build and spread throughout your bodies and your brains. Lovemaking is likely to last much longer but with both partners experiencing a greater sense of connection leading to more intense and satisfying orgasms.

Compliments of Sexual Health Network.

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On MyAdultMusic

By Mike Ragogna

Kelly Clarkson - All I Ever Wanted

Kelly Clarkson, what have you done. You've gone and turned in one tight little pop album that should get all of your American Idolcousins (except Chris Daughtry) a wee-bit green-eyed. Right from the opening guitar riffs of the megahit "My Life Would Suck Without You" (ours too, Kelly), we are hooked on your poppy, essential album that features tons of likely chart shredders that we happily will be burnt out on by Summer's end. Unlike what went down on your moody My December (that now deserves a revisit and a personal apology from each maligner), your energy level is spiking again, and you prove Simon Cowell correct when he once stated on Good Morning America that your pipes were better than your fellow Idolsters "by a mile" (okay, that was years ago, but still...).

At various times, All I Ever Wanted rocks, discos, serenades, and invokes several decades of music, often in the same song. But Kelly Clarkson's cast of producers--including Dr. Luke, Howard Benson, Louis Biancaniello, Sam Watters and Ryan Tedder--direct this sonic pageant with an eye on 2009's charts, and the team had quite an auspicious start with the album's first single. Where Britney Spears' phenomenal "Womanizer" set the record for giant leaps to the number one position, this album's lead-off "single" (however we're defining that this week) reset the bar. "Suck"'s vocals on this Clarkson co-write are some of the strongest we've heard from the singer, but one of the secrets to this pop-rockin' phenomenon also could be its chorus' channeling of a melody from Dolly Parton's "I Will Always Love You" (and, for the minutia-minded, the first line of its verses sounds like a brief nip of Dar Williams' "Spring Street").

Read more and hear three songs from the album….

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Masturbation Introduction:
Masturbation refers to touching one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure. It is a normal, healthy behavior that most people do at some point in their lives (male and female) – although some never do. It is normal if a person does, and it is normal if a person chooses not to masturbate. Masturbation, even frequent masturbation cannot harm a person physically or psychologically, unless it replaced normal, daily functioning (for example, if someone were to stop going to work just to stay home and masturbate). Masturbation can teach people how their bodies respond to sexual stimulation -- and they can share this information with a partner to enhance their sexual relationships.

Mike Ragogna music biz vet, entertainment writer

Kelly Clarkson - All I Ever Wanted

Kelly Clarkson, what have you done. You've gone and turned in one tight little pop album that should get all of your American Idolcousins (except Chris Daughtry) a wee-bit green-eyed. Right from the opening guitar riffs of the megahit "My Life Would Suck Without You" (ours too, Kelly), we are hooked on your poppy, essential album that features tons of likely chart shredders that we happily will be burnt out on by Summer's end. Unlike what went down on your moody My December (that now deserves a revisit and a personal apology from each maligner), your energy level is spiking again, and you prove Simon Cowell correct when he once stated on Good Morning America that your pipes were better than your fellow Idolsters "by a mile" (okay, that was years ago, but still...).

At various times, All I Ever Wanted rocks, discos, serenades, and invokes several decades of music, often in the same song. But Kelly Clarkson's cast of producers--including Dr. Luke, Howard Benson, Louis Biancaniello, Sam Watters and Ryan Tedder--direct this sonic pageant with an eye on 2009's charts, and the team had quite an auspicious start with the album's first single. Where Britney Spears' phenomenal "Womanizer" set the record for giant leaps to the number one position, this album's lead-off "single" (however we're defining that this week) reset the bar. "Suck"'s vocals on this Clarkson co-write are some of the strongest we've heard from the singer, but one of the secrets to this pop-rockin' phenomenon also could be its chorus' channeling of a melody from Dolly Parton's "I Will Always Love You" (and, for the minutia-minded, the first line of its verses sounds like a brief nip of Dar Williams' "Spring Street").

Read the full review at MyAdultMusic.

Kelly performing “My Life Would Suck Without You” On American Idol.

       Read the full review at MyAdultMusic on MyAdultSocial.

Masturbation Introduction:
Masturbation refers to touching one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure. It is a normal, healthy behavior that most people do at some point in their lives (male and female) – although some never do. It is normal if a person does, and it is normal if a person chooses not to masturbate. Masturbation, even frequent masturbation cannot harm a person physically or psychologically, unless it replaced normal, daily functioning (for example, if someone were to stop going to work just to stay home and masturbate). Masturbation can teach people how their bodies respond to sexual stimulation -- and they can share this information with a partner to enhance their sexual relationships.

Is there such a thing as having too much fun?

Would looking for ways to have better sex after years of good sex with your partner be sinfully greedy? From the averted gazes, blushes, and giggles that so many people produce when sex toys are mentioned, you would think increasing sexual joy past some legal limit truly breaks a law. Not so. By nature, human beings are game players and tool users. We enjoy inventing recreational activities that enhance our abilities to do required tasks: accurate javelin throwing and bringing down dinner-on-the-hoof have something important in common. So, too, game-like sexual fantasies, whether all in the mind or role-played with costumes and props, "tools" if you will, are natural extensions of a healthy desire to heighten pleasure and enrich sexual relationships.

Vibrators have a place among the tools that people use to improve their sexual skills, increase their own and their partners' pleasure, and add joy to their sex lives.

Near the end of the 1960's, vibrators came to market as a way to provide women, especially non-orgasmic women, a new kind of intense sexual stimulation whether or not they had a sex partner. Whether hand-held or designed to fasten over the hand, a vibrator is simply an appliance that produces a steady, rapid rhythm - at about 2,000 vibes or oscillations a minute, far steadier and faster than the human hand. Most female orgasms depend on clitoral stimulation, and vibrators provide the most intense clitoral stimulation possible. Sex therapists continue to recommend them for the not-yet-orgasmic.

In lovemaking with a partner or as an aid to masturbation, vibrators work best as a complement to other sexual stimuli. Using a vibrator doesn't reduce the sensual pleasure of direct body contact, of skin on skin, of mouths and tongues, of hands or genitals.

However, repeating the same sexual behavior can put you and your partner in a rut. If you rely for a long time on a vibrator to reach orgasm, you can become fixated on the vibrator's predictable stimulation, making it difficult - if not impossible - to find satisfaction any other way. Even worse, should your pattern of vibrator use cease to work for you, you could face a difficult process or relearning how to be orgasmic.

The best advice: vary your sexual routine, for variety is the spice of satisfaction. Couples often integrate vibrators into their lovemaking to enhance sex play, with the emphasis on play. "The point is not to have a relationship with the vibrator but to use the vibrator to help create a sexual experience," notes Julia Heiman, PhD, co-author of Becoming Orgasmic, in the March 1996 issue of Sex Over Forty.

Compliments of Sexual Health Network and DKT International.

Although the first Adult Night was hindered by our website host losing their server for the first 5 hours, we did manage to have 32 curious folks venture in throughout the night to visit us. Since the server went down you couldn’t use the direct link, we still had people popping in and out.

Allow me to explain how this works for a moment. The chat room client is a separate client from our website. Even with the website crashed we can still use the chat room. In future events I will simply add the direct link to our chat room by-passing our websites server.

I certainly didn’t anticipate the crash and I apologize to those of you who might have planned attending and could not. We have taken steps to assure that our next events are not hindered by this.

We did make some new friends, we had fun in spite of the crash, and we hope that this hasn’t stopped you from attending future events.

I do want to thank those of you from www.loveslavemagazine.com that managed to make it even with the same server issues. It was great to meet you.

I also want to thank DJ Choopercat who took time out of his night to provide the entertainment. Even knowing that the event was going to be a bit of a wash due to the crash, he still came in the room to spin the tunes for those of us who made it.  Kudos to you my friend.

Tonight MyAdultSocial kicks off Adult Night with an open erotic webcast in it's video chat room. DJ Choppercat will be mixing up the samples live via webcast and everyone is welcome to stop by and do whatever it is that adults do when they are naked in the view of other naked people!! Be as wild as you want it's ADULT NIGHT!